After re-reading my previous post, I thought, "That sounds hoity-toity." And, the last thing I want to do is sound like I have it all together, dispensing wisdom from on high, a "look at how great I do the Christian life" post. (In fact, I despise those kinds of posts).
So, let me apologize and try again.
What I meant by my critique of vows is how me-centered the whole wedding affair has become in recent years. Of course, we all see this: the "Bridezilla" shows would have no appeal if this weren't the case. And, my wife's observation about the content of recent "vows" made me want to ask: what about God?
Then, I thought about how Sheri and I came to the realization that we wanted to spend our life together. Of course, I am attracted to her beauty, inside and out. Of course, the thought of being with her for the rest of my life was a fantasy coming true. Of course, I thought of the benefits of our life together. But, when we got down to the nub of things--why are we doing this?--we believe that God put us together, that He knew better than we did that we needed each other to fulfill our destiny.
I know that may sound hollywoodish, even sentimentally trite. Regardless, we felt this gravity, this very clear sense that God was on our side. God called Sheri to a very specific mission within His Kingdom's work. Me too. And, we marvelled over how we came to see that our lives would be folded together for that singular purpose.
There are stories to tell as to how He made that evident to us--too personal for a blog post. But, that's what I mean when I say that we knew very clearly that we were making vows to God the day we promised we'd take care of each other. I had already thanked God a thousand times for the gift of Sheri Kaye Richardson. I didn't need to tell everyone why. Rather, on the day we married, I needed to promise God that I would take care of her because I knew she was His gift to me.
So, even after over thirty-three years of marriage, every time I think about our vows, I think about God. I promised Him that I would love her. And, I know He heard every word.